Wednesday, June 28, 2017
"Shut Up and Write"
Now let me add here, I can be an emotional dude who can be quite "reactionary" toward certain types of people and events, (and fan bases :-)) and I usually get my perspective twisted when I allow my emotions to write or speak my words. I've written alot of stuff over the past 7 years--much of it, for the sake of tender ears and fragile hearts, has remained UN-published. You're welcome!!! :-) I've found something that has become pretty helpful for me, and even a sort of therapy in dealing with my emotions (and obnoxious fan bases). I WRITE STUFF DOWN FIRST! It doesn't always completely satiate my passionate desire to hurl words like weapons at people who may happen to be rubbing me the wrong way, or provoking me to a negative response, BUT, it has a way of helping me empty out my overloaded "emotional" reactor. It gives me an outlet to process my emotion calmly and rationally (usually) before I say or write something publicly that I can't take back. This practice is coming in handy for me at present, especially over the next few days. I may respond later, but it will certainly be a safer response THEN than it would be NOW, if I were to spray my emotions of the moment wildly like a toxic pesticide over a field. When you carelessly let your emotions write your scripts, there is usually collateral damage. I speak from experience here. As I type, I'm being teasingly drawn into a potentially emotionally charged skirmish of sorts, and yessiree, there is a major temptation to unleash a well crafted shock and awe verbal AND written counter attack that could humiliate and maybe in some "cheap victory" way, vindicate me and my feelings RIGHT NOW, so ironically, this very blog is helping me to show some "restraint". (Physician heal yourself, right?) No, it's nothing serious, with world altering implications, just a distraction that is testing my resolve--an opportunity to rise above the insignificant and grow. So anyway, I thought I'd list a field tested suggestion that is STILL being field tested, that you may or may not wanna try if you're so inclined. :-) Here's the idea... Try writing your frustrations down first, before verbally expressing them, or blogging them for public "consumption". Read them back to yourself a few times, allowing yourself to "feel" the emotions of the frustrations you are expressing. Then read them to God a few times, not in some pseudo sanctimonious, religious sounding, oratorically skilled "fluff", but real, raw expression! Hold nothing back, and use expletives if necessary. Yes, you bet your butt It HAS been necessary on several occasions for me. And science has proven that unleashing some of those words can be healthy and therapeutic :-) You know you think those words in your brain, and you SURE ain't foolin' the One who understands your emotional "mess"! And then, after blasting the airwaves of heaven with your "sailor-like" tirade.........Be still and listen. I promise that God won't "smite thee"! I can vouch for that! He's had plenty of opportunity to smite me into oblivion! Sure glad His Love wins out every time!! Now, Breathe deeply. Play some soft music...not heavy metal, or rage inducing tunes, as THAT will defeat the purpose a bit. Re-read your frustrations to yourself slowly, thinking about each word. Allow the peace of God to put your frustrations in perspective. Continue breathing deeply. If after exhausting the steps in this process, you still have feelings to express, then by all means, write them down again, and maybe even let a trusted friend or spouse listen. By that time, much of the edge of emotion should be worn down, so you're able to honestly and thoughtfully express to others without the "emotional volatility" distorting the substance of what you need to say. Carry a notepad (I just dated myself, I know), an iPad, a voice recorder, or some means of journaling your frustrations privately. My iPhone (there, back to the 21st century...haha) has a notes app on it that works great. The point is, reflect on your frustrations before draggin' an audience into them. Process them. Yes, I know this can take discipline, but it's worth it. At present, I have a few things that I'd love to post, and a few people I'd like to "go off" on, but I'm listening to the voice, the whisper of Love Himself, as He calms me, focuses me, and draws me into a healthy perspective! Now, back to my journey, and your regularly scheduled emotional sh...tuff! Peace!